Wednesday, April 13, 2011

To Cheat or Not to Cheat

Ok soooo for the past three months I've been having this [pointless] debate with a good friend of mines about cheating. 
This person (who we'll call friend) feels that when you're in a relationship with someone it is ok to cheat within the first few months of the relationship. Friend feels that they shouldn't have to commit to the person they're in a relationship with until about month six. In other's ok to sleep around for the first few months until they are completely sure that this is the person they want to be in a relationship with. Moreover, friend feels this is appropriate behavior because friend is not married to this person.

I feel that friend is absolutely wrong. I feel that once you have decided to be in a relationship then you have committed your self to just that person. No cheating allowed sleeping around...From the time you have decided that this is the person you want to be should stop with the single crap. Just because you have committed to this person doesn't mean that you have to carry out "marriage" behavior. The major difference between being in a relationship with someone and actually marrying someone is that marriage is forever. (Or at least that's what it’s supposed to be before society started making divorce ok). When you're in a relationship with someone (especially if you have the urge to be with someone emotionally and sexually) you can just bounce. No strings attached. ( needless to say I don't believe in cheating..If I don't want to be with your a** I'm gonna leave you..duh :) )

Cheating is wrong, no matter how early or late you do it in a relationship. And if you do it early in the relationship then you shouldn't even be in the relationship in the first place because obviously you're not ready to be in a relationship. Basically you're just f-ing up the foundation of your relationship which is why often times there's a lack of trust. 

Moreover!! If you're unsure about committing yourself to the person you're in a relationship with then why are you even in a relationship with them in the first place??( Granted it takes a while to REALLY get to know someone..and trust doesn't just happen over night. But there has to be some sort of dedication..some sort of commitment to that person..right?) That's the whole purpose of getting to know someone prior to going out with them (Too many of us do this too...then we complain about all the time that we've wasted after we get tired of making excuses for our "significant other"). I'm not saying take FOREVER to get to know someone...but don't talk to them for a week and then go out with them the next...especially of you're looking for something serious...(Ugh this is so elementary!!)

Now I could be completely wrong!! But I'm feeling pretty right :) But if I'm wrong yall let me know!!
Ladies and Fellas...ESPECIALLY THE FELLAS...chime in and help friend...

Be honest...don't hold back!!

1 comment:

  1. I totally agree with you. I've had almost the exact conversation with a friend of mines on the matter. They think it's ok to cheat after a few days of no communication and to not tell the other person. *smh* This was a great post on the upside! =)


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